Sunday, 15 April 2012


I was honoured to be asked to write a guest post on another blog this week, so instead of writing one on here today I thought I would link you to that

If you have time please have a look at this blog - 'Not Even Bag of Sugar' - beautifully written by Kylie. You can also follow her on twitter here @kykaree.

I will also leave you with this beautiful poem, given to me by a friend. I am unaware of the author, but it is has brought me much comfort, although I cannot read it without tears. When you get to spend such little time with your precious child, it is hard to feel like you did enough for them and are truly their mother. I hope these words bring comfort to other mummys who may at times struggle with these thoughts.

What Makes A Mother

I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today,
I asked, "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard him say:
A Mother has a baby,
This we know is true

But, God, can you be a mother
When your baby's not with you?

Yes, you can, he replied
With confidence in his voice,
I give many women babies,
When they leave it is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day,
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this God,
I want my baby here.

He took a breath,
and cleared his throat,
And then I saw a tear.
I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing Here...

If you could see your child smile
With other children and say,
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of love and life and fear,
but my mommy loved me so much
I got to come straight here!"

I feel so lucky to have a Mom who had so much love for me,
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow is where I lay.
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear,
"Mommy, Please don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I am here"

So you see my dear sweet one,
Your children are okay.
Your babies are here in my home,
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lessons there are through,
And on the day that you come home,
they'll be at the gates waiting for you

So now you see
What makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart,
It's the love you had so much of

Right from the very start.


  1. What a beautiful poem. When you are feeling a little stronger you might want to try "The Shack". It includes a beautiful section where a father gets to see his lost daughter playing with Jesus and she is very happy. I'm not sure I'd recommend it quite yet for you though. Sending lots of love. Yvonne

  2. Thank you so much for your guest post, it has been widely shared and read. I hope you can do another for me one day soon.